Miss judging, or a good deed at the expense of another.
What would you think if you have just a couple of items and you walk up to the express lane, that is for ten items or less and a person has a cart full of groceries?
Would you have bad thoughts about the person?
That happened to me, but I was the person with the cart full. I was in a long line waiting patently and no one was at the express lane, so the cashier motioned me over. I told her I had a lot more than ten items, but she said it didn’t matter no one was at her line. The moment the cashier started ringing up my groceries several more people showed up, with less than ten items. I doubt if any of them thought that the cashier was being nice and waved me over. Perhaps if I wouldn’t be such a large man one of them might have mentioned how it seemed I couldn’t count. As I pondered how the cashier being nice to me caused the purpose of her lane to be sacrificed, it was no longer an express lane as she checked all my groceries out.
Perhaps there were two lessons to learn from this. Judge the action not the person, and a nice deed at the expense of breaking the rules doesn’t qualify as a nice deed. If someone else is forced to sacrifice so another can do a nice deed, who is actually giving and who is actually taking? The cashier thought she was doing a nice deed for me, but the people it cost were those that came to the express lane that stood behind me.